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Ilm Summit Expense Support

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Category : Finance

UPDATE:  Alhamdulillaah, the goal was reached, jazakallah khayr to all who contributed, you’re all in my du’aas :)

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Salaam alaykum all,

I’m heading out to Ilm Summit, insha’Allah, and I’m looking to raise $550 for myself ($350 for remaining tuition costs, $200 for round trip ticket).  For anyone who would like to help me get there, I’ve created a ChipIn campaign for myself to go :)

However, I don’t want donations.  Instead, I would like for anyone who has both read and benefited / implemented something from my writings from either this blog, muslimmatters.org, or al-Jumu’ah magazine to contribute.  Sort of a, “Hey, I really benefited from something you put there, I’d like to return the favor a bit,” in the way that Imam Ahmad wouldn’t take donations, but would offer scribing services to earn a fare to travel.

If that’s you, here’s the widget:

If that’s not you, and you want to donate, jazakallaahu khayran, but we’re not accepting donations at this time, only optional payment for services rendered, insha’Allah.

There are two reasons for this:

  1. Alhamdulillaah, with the recent downsizing I went through, I’m actually getting a lot more money, not less (severance + unemployment), and I’m saving that for family.
  2. Orphans, masjid projects, and other community service initiatives deserve your donations, not a well-off brother who’s cutting costs.

So if again, if you’ve benefited, you can support the program (think PBS / NPR) if wish, and if not, keep reading and keep benefiting anyway :D

Why Your New Diet Makes You Fatter

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Category : Fitness

Although training is an important piece of turning your physique around from flab to fab, it’s only 20 – 30% of the puzzle.  The other 70 – 80% by your diet, specifically food quantity, quality, and eating habits.  The way most people address this issue is in the following way:

  1. Eat more fruits, salads, and toast
  2. Eat less
  3. Eat foods which say, “Natural” on the box.
  4. Avoid fat

This is a recipe for disaster – here’s why:

The Get Back in Shape Workout

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Category : Fitness

If you haven’t heard much from me the past few weeks, its because I’ve been hard at work preparing a detailed fitness training regimen for beginners, complete with instructions, videos (of me!), and training logs, as well as working on putting together the technology to support it all on this site to make it more, uh, social.  Anyway, the tech part is still being worked on, but I still want to launch the fitness portion of it, so here it is.

Bearded Guy Does Flying Push-ups (Or “My One Year Athletic Transformation”)

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It was May of last year I began my weight loss journey.  My goal was simply to get my numbers down from 238 lbs @ 25% body fat to 200 lbs @ 10% body fat.  The programs I joined not only helped me with my weight loss, they helped me with athletic performance to such a degree that I’m in better shape now at the age of 32 than I ever was throughout high school and college, and I’m talking strength, cardiorespiratory efficiency, and body composition.

Here are some of the programs I’ve done over the past year, and the effect they’ve had:

The Marriage Cheat Sheet (for guys) v2.0

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Due to popular demand, I’m re-publishing a newly revised, expanded, and updated brothers’ cheat sheet, so for those who enjoyed it the first time around, I hope you like the revisions ;)   Take what’s beneficial, leave what isn’t.

Teamwork Failures: Whose Fault Is It?

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Category : Leadership

Darth Vader Teamwork Poster darth_500x556I read a pithy statement on leadership a few weeks ago, something to the effect of failure to motivate or move a team to action is the fault of the leader, not the team.  Not to worry leaders, there are plenty of pithy statements of pseudo-wisdom of faulting followers as well.

It doesn’t matter who’s at fault – when you’re not working on the solution, when you’re whining behind everyone’s back and finger-pointing, you are the problem, period, whether it’s daw’ah, marriage, or your job.

50 lbs Lost, 5 Lessons

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Category : Fitness

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After numerous failed attempts at bringing my post-marriage / kids weight back to reasonable levels, I was able to finally able to move from 238 lbs to 191 lbs (a weight I hadn’t been since my sophomore year of college).  Not only was I able to lose the weight, but at the age of 32 I’m in better health and shape than I ever was in my twenties.  Here are a few lessons I learned along the way (in no particular order of importance):

The Marriage Cheat Sheet (for sisters)

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A few years ago, I wrote a post entitled, “The Marriage Cheat Sheet (for guys)” on my old blog, and it was basically a collection of either expectations or communication techniques to help men get along (or around) their wives.  It was written in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way, and it was well-received by those who practiced the advice (though some people reported using it on pushy female co-workers, moms, and sisters with equal success).

A request was made for a sisters version of the cheat sheet, and apparently I had written one up and never gotten around to posting it.  I’m not sure why, but I went back and re-read it today, and I couldn’t help laughing.  It was again, tongue-in-cheek, so to speak, and I’m not sure if I were to re-write it I would write it like that.

Nonetheless, for your viewing pleasure (or horror), here it is, 2 years after requested.  Enjoy!

Debt Elimination Cheat Sheet

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DebtsDebts suck, and we all want to get out of them.  If they’re collecting interest (riba), then it’s even worse. In the Qur’aan, Allah tells us to take a declaration of war from Him, and the Prophet sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam has informed us that Riba is broken into 72 degrees or divisions of how bad it is, and the lowest (or least) degree is as evil as openly having sex with your mother in front of the ka’ba for all to see.

Nasty.

Next time you feel justified about taking out a riba debt, just ask yourself, would I really shag mom in front of the ka’ba with everyone watching to get this house, or to get a medical degree (or any other degree)? Is it really that much of a necessity to get into these types of business transactions?

Time Management for Practicing Muslims Part 3: Dealing with Life

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Time ManagementWouldn’t it be great if you could just write out a weekly schedule and then everything would work the way you wanted it to?  I mean, you put in all the work planning, right?  Spent all your time color-coding your calendar entries (at least I did), got it all in to your PDA, and tomorrow, the big day arrives.  You’ve planned your work, now it’s time to work your plan, right?

I recall once reading a saying to the effect of the best laid plans are great until the first shot is fired.  The same is true of your schedule.  Why?  Because you’re not a robot, or a computer.  Just because you set your alarm for 4am doesn’t mean you’ll get up.  You’re moody, your energy levels are constantly going up and down, other people are pressuring you with their priorities, and new issues keep coming up in the middle of the week, and you have to figure out what to do with them.

In some cases, nothing happened except you underestimated the time it takes to complete the task, and that’s now spilling in to the rest of the schedule.  In other cases, a great opportunity presents itself and you have a small window of time to take advantage of it.

So what do you do?