A few years ago, I wrote a post entitled, “The Marriage Cheat Sheet (for guys)” on my old blog, and it was basically a collection of either expectations or communication techniques to help men get along (or around) their wives. It was written in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way, and it was well-received by those who practiced the advice (though some people reported using it on pushy female co-workers, moms, and sisters with equal success).
A request was made for a sisters version of the cheat sheet, and apparently I had written one up and never gotten around to posting it. I’m not sure why, but I went back and re-read it today, and I couldn’t help laughing. It was again, tongue-in-cheek, so to speak, and I’m not sure if I were to re-write it I would write it like that.
Nonetheless, for your viewing pleasure (or horror), here it is, 2 years after requested. Enjoy!
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Debts suck, and we all want to get out of them. If they’re collecting interest (riba), then it’s even worse. In the Qur’aan, Allah tells us to take a declaration of war from Him, and the Prophet sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam has informed us that Riba is broken into 72 degrees or divisions of how bad it is, and the lowest (or least) degree is as evil as openly having sex with your mother in front of the ka’ba for all to see.
Nasty.
Next time you feel justified about taking out a riba debt, just ask yourself, would I really shag mom in front of the ka’ba with everyone watching to get this house, or to get a medical degree (or any other degree)? Is it really that much of a necessity to get into these types of business transactions?
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Wouldn’t it be great if you could just write out a weekly schedule and then everything would work the way you wanted it to? I mean, you put in all the work planning, right? Spent all your time color-coding your calendar entries (at least I did), got it all in to your PDA, and tomorrow, the big day arrives. You’ve planned your work, now it’s time to work your plan, right?
I recall once reading a saying to the effect of the best laid plans are great until the first shot is fired. The same is true of your schedule. Why? Because you’re not a robot, or a computer. Just because you set your alarm for 4am doesn’t mean you’ll get up. You’re moody, your energy levels are constantly going up and down, other people are pressuring you with their priorities, and new issues keep coming up in the middle of the week, and you have to figure out what to do with them.
In some cases, nothing happened except you underestimated the time it takes to complete the task, and that’s now spilling in to the rest of the schedule. In other cases, a great opportunity presents itself and you have a small window of time to take advantage of it.
So what do you do?
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After the last article, you may have thought, “Wow, I don’t have that kind of time, I have so much stuff to do I could never do all the other things I want to do.”
This article will show you how to prioritize all the other stuff to do in life and get it done while still doing all the activities you want to do.
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In order to fight my own demons of dysfunctional and disorganized living, I turned to life management literature during my senior year of college to provide answers.
After trying a variety of systems and failing many times, I was finally able to put together a hybrid approach that takes the best of what I’ve learned from each system and combine them in a meaningful way. With this system, I’m able to practice Islam and fulfill my life’s dreams.
What follows below is my approach to time management. As with any system, there may be parts that work for you and others which don’t. I tweak my own system as needed, and if you like this, you can take as much as you like and tweak to your heart’s content and desire.
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As a result of differences in social networks and ideas of ideal matches between myself and my parents, I began my quest for a soul mate alone at the age of 23, determined that I would not go beyond the age of 25 sans spouse.
During that searching process, I had many “interesting” experiences, and through those experiences learned some great lessons about the process of searching, lessons which helped me better understand what was important and what wasn’t, and now five years and two children later of happily married living, alhamdulillaah, I’d like to share some perspective on what really matters in deciding whether someone is the one for you or not.
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There’s an old saying which I don’t believe in, but it’s the first thing that came to mind – 3rd time’s the…well, anyway, let’s not go down that road. This is my 3rd official personal blog I’m starting up, but unlike the other two, this one will insha’Allah have a bit more focus. The last two were just random dumping for whatever thoughts I felt like dumping in there. So how’s this one different?
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