As a result of differences in social networks and ideas of ideal matches between myself and my parents, I began my quest for a soul mate alone at the age of 23, determined that I would not go beyond the age of 25 sans spouse.

During that searching process, I had many “interesting” experiences, and through those experiences learned some great lessons about the process of searching, lessons which helped me better understand what was important and what wasn’t, and now five years and two children later of happily married living, alhamdulillaah, I’d like to share some perspective on what really matters in deciding whether someone is the one for you or not.